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How not feel drained between clients


This is a problem that seems to be becoming more talked about especially for Healers, Empathetic Counsellors, Mentors, Intuitive readers and so on.

So what is happening?

Sensitive’s, emphatics and those who are intuitive are starting to feel things more deeply, sense things that they weren’t open to before and much, much more aware.

 How can we look after ourselves?

We probably all have some ritual that we do or protection that we use, but we are finding that they no longer work. Just as we need to up grade our virus protector on our computers, the same thing applies to our use of energy protection.

We need to change what is not working and be mindful of what our body is telling us.

  • If we need to have more time between clients then do so.
  • If our body says rest then rest, even a 10-minute rest, no reading, just closing your eyes and resting is good.
  • Make sure that you are doing some form of energy protection it is vital to protect your energy from others.
  • You may find you need more alone time.

Here is what I do.


and I also go into more depth in my free e-book ‘Taking Back Control’

I do need more alone time, a lot more. This year for me has been huge even though I have known what has been happening, it still hadn’t prepared me for how it impacted on my emotions and body.

  • I meditate daily.
  • I use the Golden Rose energy for protection, which I use in conjunction with clearing and grounding and they work. It’s quick and simple.
  • We have tested this little ritual, so you give it ago for a couple of days and then stop and see what happens.

I have included a link above to a video that explains all about how to do it and why it works. If you require more protection, as sometimes you will, I also cut cords at night before going to sleep.

  • Imagine that with a knife, you are cutting the cords that are attached to your chakra centres that are not yours. Making sure you do the back and the front of the chakra centres.
  • Then imagine they are going back to where they belong.
  • Send them back with love.
  • You can also imagine that mirrors all facing outwards are surrounding you. You can use what works for you or the lot. But they need to be done frequently.

See how you go and please pass this on if it helps.



“Meditation just isn’t for me” and other excuses that may be holding you back from an amazing mediative experience.


I can’t sit still! My brain doesn’t stop!

I just can’t meditate.

I have started and then stopped because it doesn’t work.

Meditation doesn’t have to be long. Just learning to concentrate on you breathing helps to relax the body and mind. You don’t have to sit cross- legged on the floor. Just sitting comfortable on a chair is good. If you lie on the floor, you’re more likely to go to sleep, which defeats the purpose.

I can still hear, “but yeah I don’t have time for that”

Don’t you?

Have you ever stopped to think about what it can do for you?

Or what can happen to your body when under stress?

There are different types of meditation


Moving Meditation

We may also like to try some form of moving meditation such as doing Yoga or Tai Chi. In moving meditation you learn breathing techniques, the importance of posture, movement, flow, balance, and being centred. The art of visualisation and imagery is also practised.


Relaxation meditation is based on focusing attention on consecutive areas of the body and relaxing the muscles by tensing and relaxing, until the process is completed throughout the whole body. It allows the mind to be eased of the physical state of consciousness, and enjoy the heightened sense of relaxation and wellbeing


This is a guided visual experience that involves creating a virtual reality scene within the imagination. This may be something like peacefully swimming with the dolphins or walking in a beautiful garden. It is a good place to start when trying to quieten your mind.

Just to name a few.

The Benefits of Meditation on our health

Meditation is one of the most powerful tools we have in our modern world. The benefits of meditation are many;

  • It is a naturally relaxing and healing process, which focuses on calming the mind and relaxing the physical body.
  • Many cultures have preserved some practice of this ritualistic technique whether it’s in the form of prayer, reflection, or moving meditation such as Tai Chi or Yoga. These practices promote advances from the normal levels of perception that may result in a feeling of union and greater wellbeing to the world around you.

There has been much research to find out how much of an impact meditation has in our everyday lives and health matters. It’s been found to hold such a wide range of helpful and healing benefits across a broad spectrum that it is now included in medical mainstream practice as a great way to avoid general stress.

  • In some cases, it has helped people to reduce their medications, in addition to pain management.
  • Reduces anxiety
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Increased Immunity
  • Emotional Balance
  • Increases Fertility
  • Relieves Irritable bowel syndrome
  • Anti- Inflammatory
  • Calmness

Learning meditation was a lifesaver for me and I could not imagine my life with out it now. It does not have to be difficult.

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“But ….I’m Grieving.” How to Begin to Care For Yourself While You’re Grieving

we grieve with hope

One of the biggest losses that we will experience is the death of a loved one. Bereavement grief is difficult to cope with, and we all experience it differently. It often shows up as a physical and psychological reaction to the changes that have been forced upon us in a significant and meaningful way

Grief diminishes with time. Sometimes the pain of grief can increase in the first few months after a death, as not only the reality of what has happened is sinking in, but the support structures that were initially in place starts to fall away. Grief is a journey, and it cannot be hurried. It demands patience, emotional energy and courage. You are starting a new phase in your life and adapting to new challenges but you must also find the reserves of strength to call upon hope, courage and faith.
We experience many things when grieving; both emotional and mental. We can be experiencing them all at the same time. Shock, pain, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, mental disorganisation and feeling overwhelmed, relief, and loneliness. This is normal when you are grieving.

Sometimes it may seem easier to avoid grief, as nobody really wants to have to have grief in his or her life, but it is a healthy part of living. When we try to avoid grief it doesn’t go away, it just becomes more overwhelming. The harder we try the worse it becomes.

A healthy way to grieve

Is having the ability to move between the challenges of what you may need to deal with; the pain and emotion, and the practical aspect of day to day living. It may seem impossible, but when you look at yourself, what you are feeling and analyse your reactions, sometimes a path of action and reaction becomes clear.

Some Symptoms of Grief

Grief is the reaction we have to losses of significance in our lives. This can include:

  • Loss of a pet
  • Loss of a job or employment
  • Loss of health
  • Loss of a loved one
  • Ending a relationship
  • Loss of plans, goals or a dream

One of the biggest losses that we will experience is the death of a loved one. Bereavement grief is difficult to cope with, and we all experience it differently. It often shows up as a physical and psychological reaction to the changes that have been forced upon us in a significant and meaningful way.

Grief symptoms can include:

  • Sadness, anger
  • Breathlessness, physical weakness
  • Confusion, crying, withdrawing from family and friends

How we experience grief, and for how long, depends upon many factors, such as how much the person meant to us, the role we played in caring for them, and how strongly we identified with their experiences.

What was our state of mind was like at the time? The state of our emotional, spiritual and physical wellness is also important. What other factors were happening in our lives at the time of their passing? It is not only a major loss in itself but it can often mean other losses as well such as:

  • Loss of income or financial security
  • Loss of routine, stability
  • Loss of future together
  • Loss of mutual friends
  • Loss of opportunities

Some key ideas to help with grief:

  • Take time for yourself each day
  • Keep a journal – it can help
  • Have a good cry it is part of the healing process
  • Avoid making any major decisions for at least a year
  • Take life one day at a time
  • Write a letter to the one you have lost can really help
  • Get help with financial matters
  • Find a good listener or grief counsellor
  • Take care of yourself
  • Get regular exercise with gardening, walking, yoga or Tai Chi
  • Relaxation Meditation
  • Keep up with your hobbies, passions, and anything you love doing
  • Create or continue a Grounded Spiritual Practice

I found for me when dealing with grief that the saying, ‘time heals’ is true. As time passes, you manage better.

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