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5 steps to guarding the door to your Sacred Space


Guarding the door

  • You start you’re morning feeling ready for your day ahead, only to find after a few hours at work you are feeling tired and agitated.
  • Sometimes people get too close when you’re going through the check out in the supermarket and you start to feel edgy but you’re not sure why.
  • And you have felt a real heaviness when you come out of a crowed place, leaving you feeling drained.


So what does energy have to do with my feelings being affected by others?

Our energy, over time may have mixed with energy from places you’ve been and people you have come in contact with which can subtly, and sometimes not so subtly, influence how you feel. If you have been working or living in a stressful environment you may have inadvertently taken on some of the stress, which could leave you feeling cross or annoyed. You may feel someone’s negative energy is impacting on how you live your life but you don’t know how to change it. You may feel you’re carrying a weight on your shoulders that’s not yours.

If you find you are dealing with difficult situations every day, learning these three simple empowering techniques will change your life. They did for me. When you are open and sensitive, and working closely with others, you will find you need to use clearing, protection and grounding constantly.

So what are clearing, grounding and protection?

They are three techniques that I have developed over the years to help me work with clients in stressful situations and not become immersed in their energy. It can become very draining when this happens. I use it when I am working with clients, working with spirit, clearing my chakra centres, in fact I would never not use it. It is a part of me being responsible for being a sensitive and working as a counsellor and coach.

Clearing– By clearing, you remove unwanted energy, enabling protection to stop your energy from becoming depleted and grounded so that you are not pulled in different directions. These techniques will give you a greater sense of control over your own live.

Grounding – By being grounded you are present in reality rather than your thoughts being all over the place. When you are grounded you are equally balanced between the spiritual and Earthly realms which means you can get on with your daily life in a much more harmonious way.

Golden Rose Protection -Energy Protection is very important, especially as you become more sensitive as your energy lightens. As the vibration around you increases to a higher frequency you become more like a lighthouse beacon shining out in the darkness. You attract other people with the same level of frequency, or others with a denser vibration. There is also the same possibility for any negative energy to attach to you.

The energy around our world in the ethric layer appears as a heavy and very dense fog-like substance, a bit like thick soup. When a light globe is switched on, much like someone beginning to awaken to their soul and spiritual journey, they send out a beautiful, warm, bright and gentle light through the fog and the dense energy. This attracts others in the vicinity or any negative energy that may be around. To stop this from happening and to stop you from being affected by other people’s energy, thoughts and emotions, learning to use spiritual protection will once again give you some control over what you choose to let into your sacred space. Taking the time to use spiritual protection, while being open to higher energies is important for your spiritual health.

Creating a Sacred space- It is important when doing any kind of spiritual, healing, mindfulness or counselling work that you create a space to work in and to have clear intent. There are many ways in which to do this; by using crystals, the Native American medicine wheel, asking Spirit, and for the Golden Rose Protection (higher form of white light) to surround you and so on.

This is a brief description but if you are interested in learning more about energy protection, creating a sacred space, learning about intuition, how you receive your information, auditory, visual, kinaesthetic, and much, much, more.

Checkout my new 5 week e –course 5 Steps to Guarding the door to your Sacred Space








Are you experiencing any of these symptoms?


  • Heart palpitations
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Feeling sick or nauseous
  • Cold or clammy hands
  • Hot flushes or chills
  • Increased heard rate
  • Dry mouth
  • Trouble sleeping

You maybe depressed or stressed

It’s okay we have all been there at sometime.

I worked in a very stressful workplace environment and found myself the target of bulling and harassment. I was tired all the time, not sleeping, unproductive, and certainly had no clarity or peace of mind. I didn’t want to go out the front door. I cried a lot basically I gave up I couldn’t see the point. Because I was on work cover I got sent to see a psychologist who did not get me at all. In fact every time I came a way from seeing him I would be in tears. I told him I could see colours around people stupid thing to do really but I was so vulnerable. Lucky I didn’t end up in the mental health unit I was working in.

One of the things I learnt from him though was that sensitive people should not be working in really stressful environments.

  • I started walking out in nature round a lake near us. I would sit and watch the ducks.
  • I meditated and talk to my guide (didn’t tell the psychologist that though).
  • I count my blessings that I have these abilities as they helped me through this period.

Learning meditation, relaxation techniques, and positive psychology, was a lifesaver for me and I could not imagine my life without them now.

My friend convinced me to go and do a transpersonal counselling course with her which was the best thing I ever did. I always told her that if I could find something that was close to Spiritual Psychology I would go. Transpersonal Counselling is.

For you it to will pass

Don’t be afraid to go and see someone and get some professional help. Find someone who gets you and can help. It won’t work if you don’t like them. Keep looking. There will be someone there.

There is no shame in it.

Self-care management techniques:

  • Walk it doesn’t have to be far, but far enough to get the endorphins working ( about 20minutes).
  • Use relaxation techniques.
  • Lessen the amount of caffeine taken daily.
  • Eat a healthy diet: three main meals a day – don’t just graze.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Do something just for you.
  • Have your hair cut.
  • Soak in the bath.
  • Sit in the sun.
  • Do nothing.
  • Do yoga or Tai Chi.
  • Ask a friend to look after your children.
  • Never be afraid or ashamed to ask for help; you are human, not superhuman.
  • Talk to someone about how you are feeling, don’t bottle it up.
  • Walking, jogging, and running really help with mental wellness.
  • Meeting up with friends is vital. even if you don’t feel like it. It will get better.
  • Keep up your interests to whatever extent you can.
  • Keep a journal this really helps.

Often the symptoms of anxiety, stress, depression and grief are due to us living our lives out of balance and needing to take responsibility for our own choices in life. But it can all be changed. There is always hope, if you are willing to make a positive difference in your life.

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Love and light


Tell-Tale signs that you need a Clarity Session


C clear Direction

L ovingly delivered

A wareness & Strength

R ejuvination of Spirit

I nspiration in abundance

T otal holistic approach

Y ou’re going to love it!!

You have no idea where you’re going in your life. You’re feeling frustrated, unappreciated and unsupported at home and at work. You are starting to feel like you have lost the connection with yourself and your life, which is so important to you.

You keep thinking there needs to be more and something needs to change but what? What can I change if anything? Should I just put up with it? What do I really want to do? What do I want to get out of life? How do I get there?

Above one of my clients wrote what they get out of a Clarity Session with me.

My approach is Holistic and Individual, as no two people are alike

No session is the same, as your needs are different from anyone else. But you will feel at ease and have a much clearer perspective at the end of the session.

We’ll spend 60 minutes together, by phone or Skype or in person. This time is yours where I will guide you through a set of exercises and questions designed to bring clarity to your jumbled thoughts and ideas. With both of us working together your direction perspective and balance will be come clear. Wow the relief.

This is all done with compassion and sensitivity and you will find it is never too painful.

Will you require more than one session?

That will be determined during your session.

Why work with me?

Hi, I’m Judith Te Huia, a Registered Nurse specializing in Mental Health, Transpersonal Counselor, Author, Clairvoyant and Medium and have the ability to get to the heart of the matter allowing people to gain clarity and direction. My mission is to help you find perspective again, it just got lost for a moment. Everything re-aligns, and you back in the driving seat again. We need you back in charge of your life, and directing the passion you have for your business, your family, your journey.

Clarity Sessions are currently available on Wednesday mornings, Australian time. If you know you’ll need a different time, please contact us before booking to check availability.

Investment: $100 AUS. Book here judithtehuia.com

By phone or in person

Clarity Sessions are valid for six months from the point of purchase.

I’m confident you’ll be delighted with our work together. You can’t, of course, know that for sure until you’ve actually experienced the session and I want to make sure you have nothing to worry about – which is why I offer an Investment Guarantee. If you fully participate (i.e. email the preparatory information in advance, attend for the full 60-minute Clarity Sessions, and engage whole-heartedly with the exercises and the process) and you’re not completely satisfied, email me within 48 hours of our session to request a full refund (minus PayPal fees if applicable).

What Happens Next?

You’ll be taken to my online calendar to book a Wednesday morning slot that suits. If our time zones are different we will work out the best time for us both.

Once your session is confirmed, you’ll receive an email asking for some preliminary information; this will help me to fully prepare for our time together.

Then, get ready for clarity purpose and direction.

Never Ever Give Up


How many times have you just wanted to give up? Walk away and not look back. Some times it becomes all too hard and you ask your self why you are doing it?

There are other times when you probably need to go but you can’t, you want to but circumstances stop you.

I sit in front of the computer finishing the last chapter to my second book. I’m doing the homework that I need to do for the course I am taking. I set my self tasks to do each day so that I can get things done, and then out of the blue this voice comes into my head saying” what are you doing this for? No one is going to come to your classes, they won’t want to see you as a client”.

I have had times when I just want to give up, when nothing is happening and I think why am I doing all this work? I am tired; I have nothing to show for it. I read blogs where people are successful and they are getting a head and making a career out of their work. What am I doing?

Sound familiar, I’m sure it does to some of you.

It’s about this time that I think, “it’s time to go for a walk” which is where my crew in spirit decides to tell me what’s what. This is what they had to say.

“At one time those people who are successful will have been at this point that you are, don’t ever give up. People need to hear what you have to offer and if you give up what is that saying to them?”

I keep remembering what one of Reid Tracy’s the (CEO of Hay House) favourite sayings is “It takes 10 years to become an over night success” for some it maybe 5 years for others they may need to identify what being successful really means to them.

There will be times when you feel like this, but take sometime out to go and have a break. Catch up with a friend, have a chat on the phone to someone, or Skype, I do with my lovely online business manager Erin who listens to my verbal diarrhea and then does her best to get me back on track. Whatever you need to do, do it. As this time will pass.

¨    Tell that negative voice in your head to take a hike they don’t have a place in your life.

¨    Be mindful.

¨    Take time out to meditate it helps get things in perspective.

¨    Go for a walk.

¨    Have a chat to someone.

¨    If need be have a rest.

¨    In all cases take care of yourself.

One of the things that I find that works is find a quite place; do some breathing exercises. Concentrate on your breathing for a minute or two, and then ask. “What is it that I need to do in this situation?”

Your intuition will know, learn to trust it and use it often.

 Life is about creating your own backdrop

Clinton Knop

Mine at the moment is watching the blossom coming out on the pear tree.

Be strong, be true and never give up.

Until I see you next time

Smile and be happy

There are some more free meditations on my webpage http://www.judithtehuia.com/ – !freebies/cpv7

Do You Have a Drunken Monkey Brain? – 3 ways to sober up your monkeys


Are there times when you brain just won’t shut off?

You have exams coming up or a new job interview or your not sure what to do about your life and all these thoughts are going around in you head and you just want to shut them up.

What do you do?

Not every one finds it easy to sit and meditate; in fact most find it difficult. You’re thinking to yourself, “I have all these things  I need to do, I can’t give myself permission to sit and meditate”. I don’t have time.

Here are 3 things you can try:

  1. Write a list of all the things that are worrying you.
  2. Now looking at them one at a time, ask yourself, Can I do something about this? If you can, then write down what it is. If you can’t I want you to say, ‘I’m handing this over to the universe” and then let it go. It is amazing what works out by its self when you’re not stressing about it.
  3. Don’t look at the issues all at once as then it can become overwhelming. Just work through them one at a time.
  4. If you find you can’t keep still long enough to meditate, get out and go for a walk or a run or to the gym where you go to de stress. This gets the positive endorphins happening in your brain.


Focusing is a really good way to bring thoughts into some order and you can do this by focusing on your breathing. Just sit quietly for a moment concentrating on your breath. Breathing deeply from your diagram and releasing the breath slowly. Do this for a few minutes and your thoughts will be under control. You will also be feeling more relaxed. This allows your thoughts to become more centred and not be flying off in all directions. It is better not to try and stop them just acknowledge them.


Meditation can be as easy as listen to some soothing music and doing your breathing technique. It does not need to be some complicated process.

Relaxation meditation is focused and as you are working through relaxing your body your thoughts may pop in, you may start to think about what your having for tea or if you need to get your suit dry cleaned for next week, but just let them wander for a moment. Then bring yourself back to the meditation. Doing guided meditations at the beginning is easier as you just need to follow the guidance. Or look for a group to do it with. This will also help with your wandering thoughts.

You will defiantly benefit from using the breathing techniques and learning to meditate. It also empowers you to have these skills to use in the future.

If you feel you have benefited from this article please pass it on.

My “Golden Rose Meditation” CD is available from my webpage judithtehuia.com


The Plight of The Caregiver. And why self-care should be a caregiver’s priority

Healer's outstretched open hand surrounded by random wise healing words on a rustic stone effect background

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves

and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by my self”

– Brian Andreas

Balancing Work and Live

Are you are in a position where another person’s wellbeing depends upon you? This might be your children, a sick or aging relative, your work or even just caring for your family. To be able to give adequate care for anyone in your sphere of influence, you must know how to take care of yourself first. If you are a mother with small children, or have a child with disabilities, or even an aged and infirm relative, how much time do you get for yourself? Are you aware of how you are really feeling? Or have your feelings and emotions been pushed into the background? Do you also work in any kind of professional capacity? Are you drawn from home and those you care for to also earn a wage? Yes? No?

Try the questions below

  • Do you make time for yourself?
  • What do you do in the time that is yours?
  • Do you ask for help when you need it?
  • Do you feel guilty that you are having time for yourself?
  • Do you have a support network?
  • How would you describe your coping skills?

These are really important questions to ask yourself because as a carer and provider of nourishment for yourself or others (whether it’s financial, emotional or spiritual), it’s all too easy to lose your identity. When this happens, when your own sense of self becomes unclear and your day has the sole purpose revolving around others, it is too easy for symptoms of anxiety, self-doubt, or unworthiness to start to show. Being over tired, not eating properly, having a poorly balanced day, ignoring or overriding your feelings, can lead to the slippery slope of anxiety or depression or illness.

So what are you going to do about it?

  • How can you change your life so that you can still care for others while looking after yourself?
  • How can you find time to work on your self-development?
  • You may make up excuses as to why you don’t have time but can you really afford not too?

Knowing the symptoms of anxiety and depression, and also knowing there is help available to you, is a step towards coping with and managing these conditions. Understanding your own mental, emotional and spiritual processes when under stress, or in crisis-mode, is also really important. In the healing process, acknowledging the individual, knowing that you need to work through each symptom thoroughly in order to bring about a healthy outcome will have you well on the way to having a balanced and positive out look life. These are tools, and once learned and understood can be added to your Toolkit.

Some Tips to Help with Self- care

  • Take care of yourself
  • Get regular exercise, gardening, walking, yoga or Tai Chi
  • Relaxation Meditation judithtehuia.com FREE e-course Learning to Meditate
  • Any thing that you love doing
  • Find a good listener
  • Seek professional help
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Do something just for you
  • Have your hair cut
  • Soak in the bath
  • Sit in the sun
  • Do nothing
  • Ask a friend to help
  • Never be afraid or ashamed to ask for help you are human not superhuman.
  • Talk to someone about how you are feeling, don’t bottle it up.
  • Meeting up with friends is vital
  • Keep up your interests to whatever extent you can.

In order for you to be of help to others you must come first.

A Note for Professional Carers

Working as a carer or nurse in any field, whether it be mental health, palliative care, aged care or intellectual disabilities, is very rewarding, but unless you are taking care of yourself you can so easily reach a stage of burnout. I cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of you. Skipping meals, working overtime, not enough sleep, no time for you, and stress levels too high are all too common in the caring industry. For our dedicated healthcare professionals I suggest the following:

  • Spend 5 minutes in the morning practising your breathing
  • Use your own personal relaxation techniques
  • In your break go for a walk
  • Make sure you eat a proper meal
  • Have a 20 minute nap
  • Drink lots of water
  • Do a short meditation
  • Personal Development
  • Take time out for yourself
  • Become responsible for your own health and wellness by creating an action plan
  • Listen to your body it will know what it needs

There is no shame in seeking help for yourself, in fact we should be doing it.

  • These things can make such a difference between having a healthy and balanced lifestyle and one that is teetering on the brink of illness. If you are on the ward there is often no time for a debrief when someone has passed away, or if you are dealing each day with someone dying, so how do you deal with the times when you need to take care of your other patients and their families?
  • When you are starting to feel overwhelmed, take a break, even if it is to go to the bathroom, or to get a drink of water. As I mentioned before, honour your feelings and thoughts, by ignoring them you will make yourself ill.
  • Know your limitations and vulnerabilities, as this will help you come up with coping strategies. If you need to have a cry, then go and have a cry.
  • Draw healing energy into your body and you do your breathing exercises, as this will allow your body to relax. Try not to take things personally.
  • Make time to see the unit manger and talk over your issues if you have any, or talk to a friend or seek professional help. Don’t always feel you need to do it on your own.
  • Use your affirmations, positive self-talk and allow yourself to grieve for your patients and their families.

  Carers you are a vital part of our caring environment—honour yourself and your work

Who cares for the carer? Unfortunately the answer to this question is no one. The only person, who can look after you, is you. When you do choose to take care of yourself, you will find, maybe to your own surprise, that there are people willing to help. Mentors, friends, a healthcare team, spiritual teachers, and whatever you require will be provided. All you need to do is speak up.

Carers are very special people so we need to help them take care of themselves.

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